Tag Team sleep disruptors

Alarm ClocksThe setup

Aerin’s been teething, as such she was not sleeping particularly comfortably and would wake up with a yell occasionally. She also passed out at about 6:30 which is an hour and a half before her bedtime. We let her sleep because she was exhausted.

Maggie got home and said she had a very bad cold and wasn’t feeling good. I checked and no swollen throat, no temperature, no indicators but figured I’d file it away as she didn’t seem to want anything.

The side part (in which I am laboring to breathe)

I’m currently on a 40 day run of a CPAP/VPAP machine. Each time I start it it starts at a pressure that’s too low which means I’m laboring to get the air in that I need. It ramps up pretty quickly, or perhaps my nose adapts to the starting pressure.

Whatever the case, each time I put the mask on it’s 12 minutes or so before I get to feeling like I’m not breathing through a straw. It’s a pressure setting that I managed to somewhat fix last night, but still, I haven’t managed to tweak it yet.


Baby goes down early. Around 9pm I give her a bottle while she’s sleeping. I got in bed about 10:30 expecting to be up multiple times in the night. I didn’t expect that before midnight I’d be up four times.

Mask on

First time was baby at about 11, just went over and petted her hair for a bit and she went back to bed. Mask off/on.

Second time was baby at about 11:20, just put a bottle into her mouth. Mask off/on.

Third time was Maggie (3yo) at 11:40 who I woke to tapping me on the shoulder telling me her booty hurt. The smell of poop indicated what had happened. Change, got her back to bed, she seemed to be drifting back out even as I put her in bed. Mask off/on.

Fourth time baby was yelling at 11:55 in her sleep. Once again, just pet her hair. Mask off/on.

I hear a thump at 12:30 and it’s Maggie awake again coming up the stairs. She tells me she’s thirsty. I go down and get her a drink. Her favorite sleep toy is missing and we have to pull the bed apart to find it. Maggie goes back down about 12:40. Mask off/on.

I wake up at 1:09 and look at the monitor as I heard a thump. There’s no Maggie on the monitor. I get up expecting to greet her at the stairs. Nope, she comes back on camera. I believe she’d turned the lights on to go to sleep. I’m not inclined to go down and tell her to shut them off at this point. Mask off, give up.

1:40 baby wakes up and starts talking. Maggie appears to be asleep on the monitor. I plug baby into a bottle and scratch her back.

2:something I am woken up by my three year old tapping me on the back. She’s telling me someone’s punched into the house. After a brief look around the house showing her that nobody has punched into the house she’s determined that mommy must have fixed the brick damage. I attempt to tell her it was a dream but she doesn’t seem to understand the dream concept.

I got her down after a long conversation that nobody punched into the house or repaired it afterward, as I’m drifting off baby screams in pain. Just sleeping yell but it was intense.

4:08 baby wakes up. It’s my belief at this point I had an hour of sleep. Baby doesn’t seem to be angry, need anything, or in pain. The call is made to let baby talk and play in the crib. She knows she can yell to get us. She lays back down sometime around 5:10 after having an epic adventure shaking a toy and projecting the phrase “da da da eeeeee” over and over again.

5? Incredibly loud crash. Everyone’s asleep. I think it was the dumpster people. Not entirely sure I didn’t hallucinate it at this point. I verify the the cam is working and not frozen on an image of sleeping Maggie. Decide to put the mask back on.

5:50 woken up by Maggie. Completely soaked. I’m still at a loss to figure that one out as she’s got a diaper on that’s not full and is fitted correctly. I thought maybe it was her drink but it wasn’t.

Stumbled through the day so far.

  • JH

    Wowza! Rough night! Does your other half take care of some of these middle of the night awakenings?

    • Yes, some nights more than others. When I’m being tapped on the shoulder by the three year old it’s all me. I’m also closest to tap just the way the bed is situated.

      Baby coos loud enough to wake the dead, so no one’s immune. And when she takes care of it chances are I actually slept through it and would not have noticed it.

      As such, there may be a wide array of times after midnight when something was taken care of that I didn’t notice.

      • JH

        Hope it gets better for you! I don’t know how I’d be if I was woke up that much. Our youngest is 7 months now (also a 12 year old we have half time from my first marriage) and we recently just started taking turns since she tends to sleep through the night most nights now. Prior we just alternated nights but then there were times one person would have a hell night and the other have nothing. I’d say Nora probably goes through the night without getting us up 5 or 6 out of 7 nights now. Though a lot of mornings she’ll be up a half hour or even an hour before we’d need to wake her. Especially now that she’s crawling and sitting up by herself. So it’s getting common to walk in her room and see her sitting up at 5:30 am (we need to get her up around 6).

        • Last night was actually pretty good. We had a talk with the three year old and let her know we were worried about her going up and down the stairs so we were going to put up a toddler gate and that if she needed us she could yell and we would hear it.

          Baby went to bed about 9pm, grumpy as all getout, but slept until 4 something when she did a sleep cry and went back to bed.

          I’m really not sure how much we alternate. Our three year old was a nightmare for 8 months 17 days. She didn’t sleep more than two hours at a shot, nobody slept. She was so loud you could hear her through a brick wall outside while mowing. This is not an exaggeration. There was no way to block out the sound when she wanted something. But for the most part the three year old wakes up or wanders once a week or so.

          The baby has been mostly good for 11 months. I think we’ve had six bad nights at this point. Considering we had 257 nights of Maggie not letting us sleep through the night we’re still pretty happy.

          Baby also tends to amuse herself if she doesn’t get an answer to a call in five minutes or so. Maggie would start to freak out and be so upset that there would be no calming her.

          Really odd the difference a baby makes.

          • JH

            Yeah that would be a hellish 8.5 months. Can’t imagine.